Let’s talk about adoption and specifically adoption from Congo.
How about we start with being kind to each other. Let’s remember the emotions involved in the process. I find that once your adoption(s) has been completed you become more and more opinionated. I get it. I am now, too. You learn soooo much going through it that when you are on the other side and you slowly take your blinders off you know much more than you wanted to admit before. But let’s stop the finger pointing.
We aren’t helping anyone. Are there corrupt agencies and lawyers? Yes. Are there some things that are broken? Yes. Should we make people aware? Yes. Should we blame, accuse, argue? No. So many out there seem to do this. I don’t get it and probably will never get it. If you are passionate, channel it. Help the kids. Give your time. Give your money. Give your prayers. How about instead of dividing the adoption community, we work together? The Congo adoption community is huge and growing bigger every day. Use the opportunity to bring change.
Chances are that your adoption wasn’t perfect. Your agency/lawyer wasn’t perfect. You probably didn’t ask all the tough questions. Just own up to it. Preface every conversation with that disclaimer. Does there need to be accountability? Absolutely. Does Congo need to close for adoptions? I don’t think so. I am a nobody, but thought I’d give my two cents on the matter.
Just because we are going back at it for round two does not mean that I put the blinders back on. So much has changed this time around. In fact, I should write about that. What I learned and how I am using that knowledge. I’ll add that to my list of posts I owe you. I think it would go under how we told Odette and her reaction, God pointing the way to little A, and yes, I know I am WAY overdue for some Odette photos and update.
Now I have to tease and let y’all know that I have some new little A pics, too. Oh how I wish I could share. I got some (of the old ones) printed just today to show of at Created for Care this weekend. Give me a holla if you will be there. I may or may not be faaa-reeeking out about it. Have I mentioned that I am a Major (with a capital M) introvert?